You can choose to be kind and you can choose to be hard.
being hard will give you strength and power, especially over those who are "below" you. they will make sure never to cross any of your limits or ever make you angry.
you will always have your car clean, your desk done first thing in the morning, none daring to face you.
a good choice to be, if you are a manager and need to control your subordinates.
a perfect choice for wife and kids- to keep control over your home.
also a good choice to be the most respected person among your colleagues, friends, and neighbours.
being hard with those arround you gives you the prestige you long for.
a hard word sent to someone in the morning gives you the pleasure of being the controlling party.you have just ruined someone's day.
a hard answer to someone's request will ensure you will never be bothered again with such "small things" and enables you to focus on the "big picture".
a frawn will put everyone in place, they must understand how important you are.
smiling to someone is a favour on special occasions. everyone has to know that your smiles are valuable gifts.
being hard with someone who approaches you is a good way to teach them never to approach you again.you deffinetely dont need the distraction.
being hard with someone who reaches out for you gives a clear message: how dare you dream to enter my palace?
there is nothing wrong with this choice....
only, there is no love coming your way.