The Love Book

This post is a special dedication to my new friend Cindy.
Cindy, i hope you have found your peace of mind :)


We all heard more than once wise words telling us, we should love ourselves, if we want to start loving someone else.

Often we do not listen to someone telling us how good we are, how much they appreciate our existence, how much they love and cherish us. We simply do not pay attention to it.

Praise of others strengthens our self confidence, keep us going through hard times, and makes us always want to be better and better- to deserve this praise forever.

Many of us did not have the chance to develop a strong, positive and healthy Ego -as adolescences- because they never had (or at least not enough) positive experience, which allowed their ego to grow in a healthy way.

We did not get to hear, that we are loved.

"I like not only to be loved, but also to be told that I am loved. I am not sure that you are of the same mind. But the realm of silence is large enough beyond the grave. This is the world of light and speech, and I shall take leave to tell you that you are very dear."

— George Eliot

Now, as we have grown up, we often run after someone's trust, love and acceptance.
We often run after social and self- security and we still wish to one day get to hear that there is someone out there, who really loves us.

While we are in such a process, to look after love, social and self-acceptance, we often don’t realize how someone, very close to us, is in desperate need to hear that we truly love and cherish them.
There is no better time than this very same second, to tell those you love, that you truly love them.
no need to wait any longer.


Translated into English from the German version of "The Love Book"
Birthday gift from Bernd Schmidt, 1986.